3 Ways to Practice Personal Development While Commuting

Seriously? Get my zen while sitting in traffic? Yes! As a native Houstonian, I know it is possible. Here’s 3 known ways to more happiness that you can practice while on your morning or afternoon commute.

  1. Be present. You are exactly where you are supposed to be. Worrying about being late isn’t going to get you there any faster, and it will only create more stress if you don’t accept where you are right now. Behind a Suburban. Stuck in traffic. Where else could you possibly be?
  2. Empathy. When you see someone distracted who cut you off, there are two ways to react: one involves gestures or yelling that you would rather not relay to your mother, and the other is to stop and think, “Yeah, I’ve done that before.” The second one is much more relaxing. Try it out.
  3. Compassion. That old lady who’s had her blinker on forever who no one is letting change lanes? Let her in. Be cautious and drive safely, and don’t forget there are small ways to help others in a positive way everywhere we look. It probably won’t matter much if you get to where you’re going 5 or 10 seconds earlier. You’ll feel better, and so will she.

What are some things you would like to change about your behavior while stuck in traffic?

 

VIDEO: How Life Coaching Works

I’m blown away at how many views this video has gotten. I simply wanted something for my website, and nothing I found online described my approach to coaching in the way I see it.  Enjoy!

 

 

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Coaching is becoming known as the best method of taking anyone from where they are today to where they want to be.  A coach’s job is to tap into your creativity and resourcefulness through confidential, non-judgmental dialogue. Sometimes this involves “surface strategies” like goal-setting or habit change.

But what about those factors under the surface that seem to repeatedly take us to an undesired series of outcomes?

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Don’t Fear Fear

In my blog post awhile back, “20 Ways to Ruin Your Life,” I really messed up.  I missed the big one.  The one thing that will crack the foundation of your well-being to make sure your life will be a total failure:  Fear.  Be afraid.  Be very afraid.

Latin American curanderos (folk healers) classify susto (fear or fright) as a destabilization or temporary loss of your soul. Symptoms can include insomnia, nausea, fatigue, lack of appetite or lack of interest in personal hygiene.  They don’t distinguish between physical illness and illness of the soul.  Does this sound familiar?  In Western medicine, this could be classified a disorder associated with stress and/or some type of depression.   

Physiology

So what is happening physiologically when we are stressed or afraid?  Stress hormones kick in–chemicals designed to give us a quick “turbo boost” (remember David Hasselhoff in Knight Rider?) to escape danger.  But if you’re living in turbo boost mode all the time, these chemicals are seriously detrimental to your health, causing high-blood pressure, reduced immunity, irregularities in your sex hormones and reproductive systems, digestive problems, and not to mention leaving you exhausted most of the time.

Read about some ways to reduce these here.

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Keep Negative People in Your Life…for a Little Bit

There’s a lot of talk out there about getting rid of negative people to live a happier life.  You know, the ones who drain you when you spend time with them.  While no one wants to have unpleasant experiences, you may be making a huge mistake.

The most difficult people in your life teach you the most about yourself.  If you don’t undo the stuff that made it okay for them to be in your life, you’ll attract another one just like them.  The question is this: “what part of you decided it was okay to be with them in the first place?”

When you are honest with yourself, you will see that you are re-creating interactions and contexts from your past. Interactions that you didn’t want, but they were very familiar to you.  Much like a woman who had

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Balancing Business and Life

Life Balance Houston CoachIt has occurred to me when working with clients that many of us have the tendency to think of life balance in terms of daily or weekly perfection, and if we don’t do all of the habits or tasks within a given time period, we are “out of balance.”

There tends to be guilt while at work and away from family, and guilt while with family and not working.  Or maybe even the self-criticisms of not exercising enough, or eating too much, or whatever.

I have two thoughts on this:

1)  Let yourself off the hook a little more. Most of us cause ourselves more emotional anguish beating ourselves up for what we

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Self-Compassion and Belief

“The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.” –Albert Einstein

Transformational Coach HoustonWe have evidence that the universe is hostile because we know what it feels like when things don’t go the way we want them to.  The question is:  where does the pain come from?

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Brave vs. Selfish

suicide houstonWhen someone ends his/her own life because they are facing a great amount of physical suffering, we totally get it. We are compassionate. Many of us say to ourselves, “if I knew I were going to die a slow and painful death, I’d just end it now.” Hollywood shows us images of brave heroes who take their own life rather than be captured by torturers.

Yet somehow, when the pain is emotional, we call them cowards. We judge a person who sees no end in sight to the pain they are feeling.

If you were in a burning building, and your two choices were stay in a room and burn or jump out the window,

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A Word on Forgiveness

 

Houston Life Coach Forgiveness

 

Make your life better by learning to forgive.  Make your life extraordinary by realizing there was nothing to forgive in the first place.

Try this on:  “Everyone is doing the best they can all the time, no exceptions…”  Where’s the resistance?