Paul Strobl, MBA, CPC

Brave vs. Selfish

suicide houstonWhen someone ends his/her own life because they are facing a great amount of physical suffering, we totally get it. We are compassionate. Many of us say to ourselves, “if I knew I were going to die a slow and painful death, I’d just end it now.” Hollywood shows us images of brave heroes who take their own life rather than be captured by torturers.

Yet somehow, when the pain is emotional, we call them cowards. We judge a person who sees no end in sight to the pain they are feeling.

If you were in a burning building, and your two choices were stay in a room and burn or jump out the window, would you sit quietly and burn to death, or would take the dive?

This is what suicide is. From this person’s perspective, they see no way out. They do not believe their pain will end.

You do not have to agree with or like the fact that someone close to you took his/her own life, but unless you learn to accept and respect the decision, you will only perpetuate the pain they tried to stop. It is not your burden to carry.

In 2005, I spoke to my brother on the phone several hours before he took his life. He did not tell me what he had planned to do, and I was shocked by how happy he sounded. I hadn’t heard him that easy-going and upbeat for years. I thought he was getting back on track.

Looking back, I realized that the reason he was so happy was because his decision was made. He was being liberated from his prison of pain.

After the anger and sadness, I learned to accept his decision. Who am I to call him a coward? To call him selfish?

Find the gift in everything that comes. Life happens through you, not to you.

**If you are in Houston and you or a person you know has thought about suicide, I highly recommend the tremendous work of Jennifer Chapple, practitioner in DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy).

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Confide Coaching Wins Houston Business Award

 

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Confide Coaching Receives 2013 Houston Award

Houston Award Program Honors the Achievement

HOUSTON December 11, 2013 — Confide Coaching has been selected for the 2013 Houston Award in the Life Coaches category by the Houston Award Program.

Each year, the Houston Award Program identifies companies that we believe have achieved exceptional marketing success in their local community and business category. These are local companies that enhance the positive image of small business through service to their customers and our community. These exceptional companies help make the Houston area a great place to live, work and play.

Various sources of information were gathered and analyzed to choose the winners in each category. The 2013 Houston Award Program focuses on quality, not quantity. Winners are determined based on the information gathered both internally by the Houston Award Program and data provided by third parties.

About Houston Award Program

The Houston Award Program is an annual awards program honoring the achievements and accomplishments of local businesses throughout the Houston area. Recognition is given to those companies that have shown the ability to use their best practices and implemented programs to generate competitive advantages and long-term value.

The Houston Award Program was established to recognize the best of local businesses in our community. Our organization works exclusively with local business owners, trade groups, professional associations and other business advertising and marketing groups. Our mission is to recognize the small business community’s contributions to the U.S. economy.

SOURCE: Houston Award Program

CONTACT:
Houston Award Program Email: PublicRelations@bestofbusinessawards.org
URL: http://www.bestofbusinessawards.org

A Word on Forgiveness

 

Houston Life Coach Forgiveness

 

Make your life better by learning to forgive.  Make your life extraordinary by realizing there was nothing to forgive in the first place.

Try this on:  “Everyone is doing the best they can all the time, no exceptions…”  Where’s the resistance?

 

 

Time Travel is Exhausting

“I never think of the future-it comes soon enough.”                           —  Albert Einstein

business coach houstonThere are two types of time travel that we do every day.

When we react strongly to an argument or what someone said or did (or didn’t do), we are usually bringing baggage from our past into the present moment.  The words that were used were perhaps the same critical words we heard from a parent or other kids on the playground growing up.  Or perhaps we perceived that

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Are you a “Scanner?”

http://www.dreamstime.com/-image21074439When I first read “Refuse to Choose” by Barbara Sher (not an affiliate link) I was incredibly relieved.  I had always thought something was wrong with me because I had so many interests, and I would be completely enthralled with one thing for awhile and then give it up in a moment and jump into something else.  Society (not to mention family) seemed to disapprove of this behavior, and it always had me wishing I only loved one thing so I could define my future.

As it turns out, I’m not “ADD” as many people liked to call it.  I’m totally normal.  In other moments in history, these personality types were not considered “lost souls” who couldn’t make up their minds.  They were called

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How I Became a Coach

I had the pleasure of recently being interviewed by the Co-Founder of Noomii.com.  I talk a bit about my coaching philosophy and tell my personal story of what took place in my life to make the big change and dedicate my life to helping others acheive their human potential.  Enjoy!

 

Listen to my interview by Noomii


The Life Coach and Business Coach Experts | Noomii.com

The Coaching Experts

Why People Don’t Like You

Life Coach in Notting HillI get a lot of clients who are successful in most areas of their lives, but seem to be stuck in the social part, or the relationship part.  I’m often asked what to do to find that significant other or to have more friends.

There are a lot of reasons why you have attracted the people who are in your life into your life.  There are meanings you have put on what a relationship is about and what friendship is.  There are things you may be re-creating from your past that you are “benefitting” from in your current relationships.  Keep in mind that a benefit

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Ten Ways to Communicate Better

We all want to help those people in our lives who are important to us, especially when they are in distress.  Sometimes when we try to help, however, it seems like we make things worse.  Our good intentions sometimes seem to be “thanked” with defensiveness and aggression.  Here are some things to pay attention to in order to truly create solutions and avoid conflict:

1.       Did they ask for advice?   When someone is troubled, sometimes they just want to vent.  Giving advice when someone just wants to talk is a message that you are

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