Circular Things

“The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.” –Albert Einstein

Transformational Coach HoustonWe have evidence that the universe is hostile because we know what it feels like when things don’t go the way we want them to.  The question is:  where does the pain come from?

It comes from ourselves.

When the outcome is negative, we beat ourselves up.  “I should have known better.”  “I’m stupid.”  We wait for ourselves around every corner with a big stick to beat ourselves up for making a mistake because that is what’s comfortable.  We’re used to it.

So do we fear the outcome, or do we fear what we do to ourselves when things go awry?

When we believe that the world is hostile, we are always vigilant. We are waiting for the other shoe to drop.  We are tensely anticipating the next attack or bad situation.  We tell ourselves stories about other people:  “He probably thinks I’m a loser.”  “She’s disappointed with my work performance.”  “They think I’m a terrible person.”

In our defense (to our own negative thoughts), we react, we attack or we run away from people and situations and cause conflict.

We create a hostile universe for ourselves.

If we dropped our stories about other people, the world would be friendlier.  If we put down the stick, we would learn to have compassion for ourselves.

Don’t believe everything you hear – this includes your own thoughts.  Question them and get rid of what is stressful.  The universe will suddenly become more and more friendly.

 

 

About Paul Paul Strobl, MBA, CPC


Paul Strobl is a Personal Coach for CEOs and Business Owners focused on running successful businesses in line with their personal values while nurturing personal and professional relationships. He has extensive cross-cultural experience as a location-independent entrepreneur for the past decade and has traveled, lived in or run a business in over 30 countries. Originally from Houston, Texas, he is currently traveling around the Balkans with his bilingual Argentine mutt Sheila.