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Are you a people pleaser?


We all crave connection and validation, it's wired into our DNA! Wanting people to like us isn't bad, it shows we're social creatures. But when that need takes over, it can be unhealthy.

So, here’s an exercise to find out if you’re a people pleaser or not: Imagine you're at a party. A friend invited you, you know a few faces, but mostly it's new territory. You grab a drink, ready to mingle. On a scale of 1-10, how important is it for those strangers to like you?

If your number is close to 10, then perhaps you have a people pleasing tendency. And your need to be liked by complete strangers probably shouldn't be anywhere close to that number!

But bridging that gap and finding that healthy balance isn't always straightforward. So, if you're nodding along, wondering how to shift from seeking validation to embracing self-assurance, let's dive deeper. Send me a DM or click on the link on my bio to book a free trial session.

Texting and emails are lightning-fast ways to communicate, but they lack all the richness of face-to-face interaction. Tone of voice? Gone. Body language? Vanished.

Something as simple as 'I don’t get it' can accidentally come off as hostile, especially if the recipient is having a rough day. That's why using text and email softeners is crucial to keep your communication polite and avoid any misunderstandings

A well-placed "I'm sorry" or "I'm afraid" can totally change the game. These softeners act like little flags, letting the reader know you're approaching the situation with kindness and understanding.

Instead of a cold "I don't understand," try "I'm sorry, but could you rephrase that? I want to make sure I'm on the same page." See the difference? It's subtle, but it adds a layer of warmth and ensures your message is crystal clear.

#CommunicationTips #TextingEtiquette #EmailSofteners #PoliteCommunication #AvoidMisunderstandings #KindnessMatters #EffectiveCommunication #ClearMessages #SocialSkills #Professionalism

We all hear each other, but are we truly LISTENING?


Active listening is much more difficult to master than you would think. Most of us are stuck in the First Level of listening, which is just waiting for the other person to stop speaking so that we can have our say.

Beyond that, there’s the Second Level, where we try to empathize with the other person. This is where we put active effort to understand what they’re saying by putting it in the context of their life.

And ultimately, there’s the Third Level, where we don’t just listen to what’s being said but also try to decipher what’s NOT being said. We pay attention to nonverbal cues: tone, body language, and even silence. While it’s very difficult to be in this state of listening all the time, it unlocks deeper connections in all your relationships.

#communication #relationships #activelistening #empathy #nonverbalcues #bodylanguage #deeperconnections #communicationgoals #selfimprovement #relationshipskills

Can't Make A Decision? Ask Yourself These Questions!

Feeling torn between two choices? It happens to the best of us!

While there's no one-size-fits-all answer for making the right decision during a dilemma, there are a few tools you can use to make the process easier.

The first step is getting clear on who you want to be. Ask yourself: what kind of person do you envision yourself becoming? Now, picture yourself taking each path you're considering. Which one feels more aligned with your future self?

Secondly, fast forward ten years from now. Looking back at this decision, which path do you think you'd regret less? Stepping outside your comfort zone might feel scary now, but could lead to immense personal growth down the line.

And finally, when faced with multiple projects to choose from, ask yourself, “If they all failed, which one would I choose?” It's the one you'd be most invested in, even if success wasn't guaranteed.

So, these are a couple of questions you can ask yourself when faced with a dilemma. They will help you approach your decision with greater clarity and confidence.

#DecisionMaking #Clarity #FutureSelf #PersonalGrowth #ComfortZone #InvestInYourself #Confidence #ChoiceMatters #LifeDecisions #RegretLess #DilemmaTips

Ever opened a present and wondered, "Wait, is this for me or them?"


Narcissists see their unwanted stuff as treasures and expect you to worship them for it. And they have a special talent for turning gift-giving into a manipulation tactic.

If a gift feels more like a veiled obligation, your intuition is likely correct. Narcissists can use gifts to cultivate a sense of indebtedness that they can exploit later. It's not about you; it's about what they can extract from you.

Watch out for the strings that are attached to their gifts. Their gifts often come with a long list of instructions. It might be the "perfect" spot above your fireplace (never mind it clashes with your decor) or a specific way you absolutely must use it.

But that’s not a real gift. A true gift allows you the freedom to enjoy it on your own terms, not under their dictates. If a present feels more like a burden, trust your gut! True generosity has no strings attached.

#Narcissist #GiftGiving #Manipulation #RedFlags #Boundaries #TrustYourGut #Authenticity #Generosity #SelfCare #HealthyRelationships

Life Coaching Vs Therapy: What's The Difference

You’d be surprised by how often people confuse these two professions.

When deciding between a life coach and a therapist, it’s crucial to understand their distinct roles and how they cater to different aspects of personal growth and mental health.

While both therapists and life coaches help individuals overcome their struggles, there are major differences between the two.

A life coach specializes in setting and achieving specific goals, offering guidance to navigate life’s challenges, and fostering personal and professional development.

A therapist, on the other hand, delves into deeper emotional and psychological exploration, providing tools and strategies for healing, coping with mental health issues, and understanding underlying patterns that influence behavior and thoughts.

Choosing between a life coach and a therapist depends on your needs: if you’re seeking to overcome obstacles, maximize potential, achieve specific outcomes, or just live a more fulfilling life, a life coach might be your best bet.

But if you have some unresolved traumas and issues that are hindering you from living a functional life, you need to seek out a therapist.

#LifeCoachVsTherapist #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealth #ChooseWisely #SelfCare #WellnessJourney

Often, when I bring up acceptance, I notice a common reaction: the fear of being taken advantage of.

But acceptance isn't about being a doormat; it's about finding peace within yourself. Letting go of expectations doesn't mean settling for less—it means opening up to the infinite possibilities of human behavior. You don't have to lower your standards; you're simply detaching from the need for a specific outcome.

Instead of holding onto expectations like tightly gripping a grenade, it's about releasing the need for control and allowing things to unfold naturally. About understanding that you can’t control how other people behave and that your sense of wellbeing doesn't have to be tethered to it.

So, embrace acceptance as a powerful tool for inner peace. Start by understanding that acceptance is not about surrendering your power—it's about reclaiming it from external influences.

#Acceptance #InnerPeace #LetGo #NoExpectations #SelfEmpowerment #EmotionalFreedom #Mindfulness #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth #Positivity

You Should Be Grateful For Even The Bad Things In Your Life!

When you practice gratitude long enough, you start to realize that even the experiences, feelings and situations you considered bad have now made it to your gratitude list.

It's not because they've disappeared, but because you've learned something from them. You've gained insight, maybe even about yourself.

And when you reach that state, you realize that you don’t need “more” to be happy.

We're constantly bombarded with messages that happiness lies just beyond our reach, in that next purchase, promotion, or milestone.

But the sad truth is that your achievements aren’t going to fill that hole in your heart. True contentment doesn’t come from outside, it’s a feeling that you create within yourself through healthy practices, such as being grateful for all the things you have.

Being content doesn't mean settling. It means understanding that you're on the path to more, but you're also okay with where you are. It's about finding meaning in what you have and being content without necessarily being at the final goal.

Remember, it's not about having it all; it's about appreciating what you have while striving for what truly matters to you. That's the essence of a fulfilling journey.

#gratitude #lifelessons #personalgrowth #contentment #innerpeace #learnandgrow #mindfulness #happinesswithin #fulfillingjourney #appreciatethejourney