Don’t Get Mad, Get Curious – Improve Relationship Communication

Curiosity might not seem like it’s something that can be life-changing, but the more you apply it intentionally into your life, the better your life seems to get.

In this video, I discuss how to apply curiosity to develop more self-awareness, and improve your relationships and communication.

 

[VIDEO TRANSCRIPT]:

Get Curious While Conflict is Happening

So you may have heard that phrase: “Don’t get mad, get even.”  I have a different one.  It’s “don’t get mad get curious!”

Why curiosity? Because when somebody’s angry with you, there’s something else that’s happening. So if you’re able to keep a tone of curiosity, and ask that person what’s really behind that–what are they afraid of; what are they concerned is going to happen? Then it opens you up to a whole new type of conversation with that person, and it and it maintains the relationship in a better state.

 

Get Curious After the Event

After you have this argument, or after somebody says or does something that upsets you, then you get curious about yourself. So what’s the story you’re telling yourself? What’s the trigger that set you off that had you getting upset or angry?

Take some time and journal about it and really ask yourself what is it that made me flinch in this situation?

Don’t get mad, get curious. See you next time.

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Blooper Reel

I wasn’t looking at the lens the whole time–I was looking at my screen [laughs], so let me redo that…

So when you’re able to do that then….I don’t know what [laughs].

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